Kendrick Lamar and Whitney Alford’s Relationship History, As Told By His Lyrics

On the bonus track, he gives a first-hand account of how “his girl” helped him stay the course during moments where his confidence failed him. As he shares his insecurities with her over a bucket of KFC, she shuts his doubts down immediately: “You know you the best boy, you gotta keep doing it/But don’t forget when you do, just keep you in it/And never listen to what the industry say/Don’t be a typical artist, be more like Jay.” By Kendrick’s own confession here, without her he wouldn’t be the man or rapper he is today.“Growing Apart (To Get Closer)” from the 2010 mixtape Overly Dedicated. Kendrick gets surprisingly personal on Mr. Morale & The Big Steppers, even going as far as to call out his “lust addiction” on the track “Worldwide Steppers” and talking about how his infidelity put pressure on his relationship. He alluded to similar transgressions in the opener from Overly Dedicated, rapping with melancholic honesty about the strain he’s putting on his girlfriend: “Meanwhile I’m in these streets with everybody, I’m trying to get it/And she know they got me, I watch her feelings watch me/As they staring with the saddest eyes of loneliness,” he raps.“Buried Alive Interlude” from Drake’s 2011 album Take Care. This appearance could be considered the moment when Kendrick began the shift from underground darling to star. Money and success can do crazy things to your perspective, and here, Kendrick doubts his relationship. “The reason why my best friend say she loves me more than life/But I live a double life and need to let her go,” he raps, believing that he must cut her loose as the pressures of fame and wealth begin to materialize.Billboard and The Breakfast Club in 2015 In a 2015 cover story with Billboard, Kendrick said his connection with Whitney transcends the need for a label. “I wouldn’t even call her my girl,” he says. “That’s my best friend. I don’t even like the term that society has put in the world as far as being a companion — she’s somebody I can tell my fears to.” Months later, following their engagement announcement, he doubled down on the devotion in an interview with The Breakfast Club, echoing the need to be loyal to the woman that’s held him down from the beginning.“LOVE.” from the 2017 album DAMN. Kendrick and Whitney confirmed their engagement in April 2015, following the release of To Pimp a Butterfly, and this track sounds like the result of years of maturing and working on a relationship. “Keep it a hundred, I’d rather you trust me than to love me/Keep it a whole one hund’, don’t got you, I got nothin’,” he croons on the ballad, realizing the sentiment that he expressed back in 2009 remains true eight years later.Mr. Morale & The Big Steppers. This is Whitney’s coming out party, as suggested by the album cover, which features her sitting on the bed opposite him, holding the couple’s second child. The family that they’ve built is at the center of the album. Her presence looms large on the four tracks she features on (and even elsewhere), narrating as a guiding force towards the self-actualization Kendrick hopes to achieve. On the opening track “United in Grief,” she urges him to be honest as he embarks on his most personal project to date. “Tell them, tell ’em, tell them the truth,” she demands. The last time we hear her voice is on “Mother I Sober,” the emotional climax for Kendrick, closing out the trauma-laden opus. “You did it, I’m proud of you/You broke a generational curse,” she says calmly.