Ways to heal a broken heart

WE understand how difficult and disconcerting it is when someone breaks your heart. Sadness indicates that you were honest and cared deeply about your relationship. It will take some time to recover, but there are many things you can do to make it through. Since most of our fragile hearts have gaps, having a crushed heart is a terrible thing. There are wounds, some of which have completely healed, some with scabs and some still open. However, since it was fractured into a million tiny fragments, light could pass through your heart. You are not broke. I understand it hurts, but it is through that pain that you can begin to form fundamental connections with yourself and others that were previously unimaginable.

Acceptance is the first step

Accepting and understanding things as they are is the first step in overcoming a breakup. Accept that your relationship with someone you care about is over and it’s time to move on. It may be painful to hear it, but stop dreaming of getting back together, or that this is just a phase, or that you are on a short break. How else can you move forward if you have the mindset that your partner’s aspirations are returning? If you feel that you have done everything possible to repair the relationship but it still failed, try to accept the circumstance. It won’t be easy; you can deny it for a while, but as the days go by you should strive to accept it.

Forgive

Forgiveness does not mean completing the other person’s responsibility. Forgiveness is meant for you. Truly, the definition of forgiveness is letting go of one’s anger or resentment against someone who has done something wrong. Most of the time, if a relationship doesn’t work out, it’s because the two people don’t fit together well. We will be able to see it and move on if we come from a place of complete self-esteem. However, in a relationship, we often feel a sense of excitement with someone for reasons we can’t understand. They come from deeply ingrained visions you had as a teenager and that individual caused pain or distress within you. Don’t let your pain and fury become your legacy. By forgiving, you free yourself from the bonds that bind you and allow yourself to have a happier life with the person you were meant to be with. Write an apology letter, say a prayer, or state your commitment to forgive.

Appreciate good memories

Even if your relationship ended badly, chances are it wasn’t all bad. It is natural to reflect on what was wonderful and you may find that you are missing specific aspects of your ex and the affection you had. At the same time, you may be inundated with the empty space left after a relationship ends, or you may bring animosity to the events that led to the partnership ending. Overcoming these emotional ups and downs is a necessary part of healing. Allow yourself to be grateful when a pleasant memory arises.

Don’t avoid the pain

Avoiding pain after a heartbreak is the worst thing you can do. Suppression is a maladaptive protective technique in which a person blocks or avoids distress. Face your suffering, cry, let off steam and don’t hide your emotions. The more you cry, the faster you will recover from your pain. It can sting to remember the good times. You may cry if you see some of your ex’s pictures. This is very natural for everyone and is not a sign of weakness. It is a bold step forward.

Avoid going after a rebound

There’s a reason they’re boring and predictable – bounces provide a quick boost that briefly makes you feel good or useful. However, once the effect wears off, you may feel guilty. When you take reckless actions, like blindly plunging yourself into another relationship, it suggests that you are looking for a solution to avoid the hard feelings that come with losing someone you care about. Recognize the pain and accept that being responsible involves dealing with it. Be prepared for the pain.

Build your self-esteem

If your partner instigated the breakup, it’s natural to start looking into your physical characteristics and aspects of your personality, wondering what’s missing in you that would lead someone to fall out of love with you. Instead, reverse that thought process. Focus on what you truly value about yourself and what you have given to the relationship, rather than the attributes you lack. Make a list of character qualities, emotional strengths, skill sets, abilities, and any other attributes that add value to a relationship. If you are stuck for ideas, reach out to your family and closest friends, who will gladly reveal all the reasons why they consider themselves lucky to have you in their life.

Trust the process

Your life is a process. A beautiful and elegant flowering of possibilities and potential. Relationships are an important component of our mission: to love and be loved. Some love relationships aren’t designed to last a lifetime. Be grateful for the opportunity. Each event helps you become the person you were born for.

The key to getting over a breakup is within you. A breakup can make you feel unhappy and lonely, regardless of who has chosen to end the relationship. It’s common to feel a variety of emotions after a breakup, especially if it was unexpected. Remember that it’s okay to feel bad for a while. Give yourself time to digest the breakup and exercise self-compassion. If you find yourself walking the same path with the same kind of guys or women, make an effort to identify and correct your habits. Hold the hope that you will discover great love at the soul level. You deserve it. Sending love.