Do you need to understand everything?  – The Culture project

When going out and giving speeches, one of the most common questions I get is how do I understand everything? How do I know what kind of job I want, if this is the right person, if I’m on the right path?

I want to start this blog with DO NOT FEAR! If you come across this question often and it gives you all kinds of stress and anxiety, I would urge you to take a step back. Breathe, have a cup of tea or cocoa and relax.

The truth is: You will never understand everything. No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to deduce or plan everything that will happen and how it will happen. There will be surprises along the way. The Lord knows the last thing we would think about and will always take us by surprise. This can be very unnatural for us, because the desire in all of us is to know what our story will be, what the pages will say about us and what we have done. Human inclination is control, being able to be on top of things, ahead of the curve, and prepared for the worst.

This combats God’s call to us, who wants us to surrender and let him write history. At the end of the day, he created us, he created the earth, he created the universe. He is in control. Only when we are able to let go, let our heavenly father do his work, can we have the peace of a small child and trust in the father. Know that God giving this piece of our life will never make things boring. God is the author of every story and he can make our story wilder, more adventurous and more wonderful than we ever could.

The world and culture tend to put this expectation on our shoulders that we need to be in this timeline for our career or that we need to achieve certain goals in a relationship within a certain point. Ultimately, it is so unrealistic and pointless to think that we will have to know everything we need to know when we are 20.

A small bribe in this article is that you shouldn’t feel pressured into having a romantic relationship in middle school or high school. You don’t need it to be happy or popular and you are changing, growing and going places. Who knows who you will meet and what you will do when you are ready to settle down. You still have the freedom to date someone if you wish, but keep in mind that change is around the corner.

Don’t take what I’m saying as “Don’t make any decisions”. This is also not a realistic or prudent way to live. While we cannot know what will happen in 5 or 10 years, we can try to know and understand what awaits us right now. Whether you are in high school, a freshman just starting out, or a senior choosing between colleges or even a college student choosing a major. The Lord is a good guide and he desires the best for you. Whether it is experiencing something difficult to form in virtue or giving yourself an experience that you could not imagine.

Whether or not you are at a decision making point for, here are some tips that will help you see more clearly:

  1. Get to know yourself – I think one thing that has been swept under the rug is simply learning who we are. It is so important to stand on the foundation that we are loved children of God, so that we can then live in the freedom of his endless love for him. From this foundation, we will not be bound by an identity built on something fragile, such as success, popularity, wealth, things that will change or break with time. Another part of this is that we are a mystery to ourselves. We will always learn the movements of our hearts, why I thought it, why I feel this way, why this hurts so much. What helped me in this area was taking personality tests. See what other people like me do for a living, how they process information, how they build relationships. Often, there will always be a line or statement that strikes me: “Yes, it’s me!” There is a lot of wisdom to be gained by seeing the different parts of ourselves and how different we are from each other. Of course, personality tests will never be an exact match or answer to our troubles. In the words of a pirate “We thought they were more similar guidelines. “
  1. Our doors open – I invite you to stop and think. What are all the opportunities that lie ahead of you right now? Is there a job, an important or a project that has been offered or presented to you? I invite you that maybe you just have to try and see how it goes. I know there can be a lot of fear if we take these chances, because we don’t want to be wrong. I would advise that everything you learn, for better or for worse, will still help you in the long run. Knowing what you don’t want to do is still as fruitful as knowing what you like. Helps make future decisions and understand what to avoid. Maybe you will go inside and discover something new about yourself or you will see that you are enjoying yourself more than you thought. The Lord wants you to find the best thing for you just as much as you do, so don’t think the Lord will intentionally lead you to miserable or aimless work. For some, the beauty of their career isn’t that it’s great, all day, every day. The beauty is that the job allows them to provide for their families, or gives them the opportunity to build valuable relationships. So never completely count something like no if you haven’t given it a fair chance.
  1. People around you – Again, we are often a mystery to ourselves. Something we sometimes fail to consider is what the people we love see in us, because sometimes they see something or provide a new perspective that we have never fully considered before. The Lord loves us and speaks to us in unique ways, and sometimes this happens through our loved ones, who know us better than anyone else on earth (emphasis on “on earth”). Our loved ones see us when we react, when we rejoice, when we suffer, and they can give us that insight we need. Even our parents and elders have so much wisdom and knowledge from their youth and their mistakes, and we would be foolish not to learn from them. They can be our parents, relatives or teachers, people who have walked before taking their first steps. They will be able to give us insights into opportunities and give us a more complete picture of what we would experience.

So, I hope this has given you some reassuring information and some good ways to move forward. I want to reiterate that you shouldn’t feel pressured to know or understand things long before you have to move forward. If you’re in middle school or high school, you’ve got a long time before you need to narrow your focus, so try things out and see what’s left. If you are later on, in high school or early college, take a few steps to discern and commit to a decision. If you find that what you have chosen is not what you want to do 10 years later, keep taking steps to find out what’s out there and what’s right for you.

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